This is a crucial distinction that we must understand

[Mary Naeem]

This is a crucial distinction that we must understand clearly as we navigate our relationships in a complex world. There is a major difference between being friends with non-believers and condoning sin. Let us explore this with hearts open to God’s wisdom and love.

We must remember that friendship with non-believers is not only permissible but can be a beautiful expression of Christ’s love. Our Lord Jesus himself was known as a “friend of tax collectors and sinners” (Luke 7:34). He did not shy away from relationships with those who did not share His faith or live according to God’s laws. Instead, He approached them with love, compassion, and an invitation to transformation.

Being friends with non-believers allows us to fulfill Christ’s command to be “salt and light” in the world (Matthew 5:13-16). Through these friendships, we have the opportunity to demonstrate God’s love, to share our faith when appropriate, and to be a positive influence in their lives. As Saint Paul reminds us, “How can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard?” (Romans 10:14). Our friendships can be the very bridge that allows others to encounter Christ’s love.

But we must be clear that friendship with non-believers does not mean we condone or participate in sinful behavior. Condoning sin would mean approving of or encouraging actions that go against God’s will. This is not what we are called to do. We can love the sinner while not loving the sin, just as Christ did.


The key lies in maintaining our own integrity and faithfulness to God’s teachings while showing love and respect to our friends. We can disagree with certain choices or behaviors without rejecting the person. In fact, true friendship often involves the courage to speak the truth in love when necessary (Ephesians 4:15).

Consider the example of Jesus with the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11). He showed her great mercy and friendship, protecting her from those who would condemn her. Yet He also clearly called her to “go now and leave your life of sin.” This is the delicate balance we are called to strike in our own relationships.

Let us also remember that we are all sinners in need of God’s grace (Romans 3:23). Our role is not to judge, but to love as Christ loved us. As we form friendships with non-believers, let us do so with humility, recognizing our own need for ongoing conversion and growth in holiness.

Remember, that by maintaining this balance – being friends with non-believers without condoning sin – we open doors for God’s love to work in powerful ways. Let us approach these friendships with wisdom, love, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, always seeking to be instruments of God’s grace in the lives of those around us.